What’s Your Number?

So 10.5 sexual partners in one lifetime is low for an average American female according to the film “What’s Your Number?

Is that good news or bad news? For Anna, it was bad news! Her response was, “No! It’s low!” Now I know that in this new dispensation called post-modernism, everybody can decide what is best for them, “to each his own,” they would say. And yes, we have to respect people’s choices and decisions, even if it is downright crazy and destructive. But how should we respond when they propagate a message of multiples sexual partners?

Here’s a blurb of What’s Your Number? It is about a woman who is fired from her place of employment, and while commuting back home stumbles upon an article of what the average amount of sexual partners an American women has during her lifetime. This average seems to be a modest 10.5 sexual partners across a lifetime due to her immediate reaction and response, “It’s low!” Upon her arrival at home she tallies up and discovers that she has had 19 sexual partners. The rest of the film is about her, through the assistance of her male neighbour, who has almost the exact same problem, trying to reconnect with her ex-lovers to see who could possibly be a match and future husband before she doubles the average and moves up to number 20.

So in a nutshell, the film promotes promiscuity without any conscience or consequence. That it is okay to have many sexual partners, and the more the better, is encouraged. That sexual experimentation and experience has no bearing on the person at all. That such behaviour is endorsed by the entertainment industry without considering the influence such a message may have on young people.

So why should we engage in this conversation? There are too many impressionable young people to promote such reckless and irresponsible behaviour. Statistics of teenage pregnancies and destroyed futures, escalating numbers of HIV/Aids victims, and not considering the emotional trauma that comes with it, should be seen as real results and consequences of such behaviour.

I mean how would you respond if Anna was your daughter and she comes up to you and says, “Mom! Dad! I just thought that I should let you know that I am way beyond the average of 10.5 sexual partners. But don’t worry, I’m only on 19 and I still have the rest of my life ahead of me.”

While we all make mistakes and many bad decisions in life, it is not okay to continue down such a spiral of self-destruction by selling yourself short and not even to the highest bidder. And while this film says much about our culture we are living in, it is not an acceptable message at all. Sex seems to become cheaper by the day. There no longer seems to be any beauty or sanctity in this gift of sexuality.

The question that pops into my mind is, “Are we as Parents, Youth Pastors and Christ-Followers saying and doing enough to make a contribution to this culture?” If we remain silent, our youth will listen to anyone who stands at the microphone and there is no louder microphone than that of the entertainment industry. Are we prepared for that kind of influence?