It is here…

It feels like a really long time since I last blogged (seems I even forgot how to🙂 ) but as this year has commenced and seeing that I am also one year older, my birthday is in January, I have to realise that things change, have changed and will definitely change. I get tired more quickly (maybe that’s because I am unfit), I have different desires and goals for my life, my friendship circle is smaller and, well, just that life has become more meaningful and more fragile to me. I’m not even sure those things come along with ageing, but if it does then I’m probably on the right track.

This year began with introducing me to some new things (let’s hope it remains that way) with my first trip up Table Mountain via the Aerial Cable Car, which by the way is one of the new 7 Wonders of Nature (proud Capetonian🙂 ). After all these years as a Capetonian, I can finally say “I’ve done it,” no more just hiking up the mountain even though it has given me amazing memories. The trip also made me realise how sometimes I can take things for granted, I mean all these years Table Mountain has been visible every single day of my life and not even bad cloud coverage can hide it and only after all these years have I gone up via the cable car. Sure we might not all be financially able to do that but it if we serious about things then nothing should deter us from experiencing things in life.cable car

This brings me to main point, my next thing….

I’ve registered my own domain, so this will be the last time that I will be blogging from the Why, you might ask? Why not? I might add🙂 here’s my new url: Obviously the site will become more populated as time goes on but I hope that you will continue to follow me on this journey.

It’s a new year with new beginnings, let’s see what all lies ahead for this year.

new beinnings



Looking Back – Lookin Forward

Finally I can say it’s holidays.

It has been a while since my last post, it was just crazy busyness all around with Seminary graduation and tying up all the loose ends (as if that’s even possible) and just LIFE. I’m hoping this break would be exactly that, a BREAK! But by the Looks of it I doubt that, although there won’t be any complaints from this side.

Much has happened during 2012 (as I’m sure most of you can echo) that I am thankfull for and it has spurred me on to look at some new goals for 2013. But then again, it’s just the kind of person I am. Every year this time I have quite some introspection and evaluation of the year gone by. Have I achieved what I have set out to do? Has this year been a positive one for myself and my family? How am I any different now than what I have been at the start of the year? My responses to all of those questions can only be answered in a positive note. Sure it wasn’t all sunny days but then again what is life without some challenges?

It is said if we don’t learn by our pasts, we are bound to repeat the same mistakes in the future. So the one major lesson learnt is this: YOU CANNOT RECAPTURE TIME! So with that said let me give you some glimpses of what I would want to see happening in 2013.

I began blogging more than one year ago and it has really been a fun journey but soon i will be moving to my own site at but more of that to come.

I am also wanting to start a community venture focussing on school dropouts and youth on the fringe by giving them a “gap” So that their lives can be counted for something.

I am still busy completing my PhD studies (which is a long way off to being completed Ai) as Well as picking up some more lecturing opportunities at Seminary. I definitely will be doing some writing.

But what I’m looking forward to the most is that I will be married two years to the most amazing woman that I have ever met. My life has been awesome ever since. Mia-Cara you made me a believer.

At the end of 2012, I can honestly say that I am looking forward to and am excited about 2013. So bring it on. I am ready.

Happy holidays everyone and a blessed new year.

By the way this is my 50th post. So it’s a nice way to round up everything.

Time waits for no-one

There is a saying that goes, “the quickest way to move backward in a fast-moving world is by standing still.” Time really does fly and sure does not wait for anyone. Twenty years ago I was in matric (grade 12 for the newbies). Time not only accumulates things but also has a sense of making us realise what we are or have been missing. So what have you accumulated or missed over these years?

It’s a question I continually ask myself, some people might phrase it as, “are you successful?” The word successful really is a loaded word and can mean so many things to so many people. Ultimately, success should be seen as, “are you the person you are meant to be?” But how do you know who you are meant to be? How do you really know, without any shadow of a doubt that you are on the right track to becoming that person?

I listened to a speaker at chapel last week who said something like this, “sandwiched between gifting and passion lies life’s purpose.” In other words, are you living a life out of your gifts, truly your gifts and talents and not other people’s expectations and desires that have been placed on you? And are you living out your passion, that which makes you jump out of bed each morning leaving you feeling fulfilled?

For me, 20 years later, I still struggle at times to get out of bed, and still do not live completely in my gifting, does that mean I am unsuccessful? I think, I am on the path to that reality and that makes me more successful than many people out there.

Ignorance might be bliss, but it robs you of the life’s journey’s experiences…

so get to know your gifting and get to know your passion

for therein lies…

Fifty Shades of … Porn or Fiction?

I have been contemplating this for a while. Should I blog? Shouldn’t I blog? Should I or shouldn’t I? Well, I guess I caved!

Fifty Shades of Grey. The latest sensation in fictional reading and read by millions of various ages and backgrounds. It has been Number 1 on the bestsellers list for 18 weeks. But what exactly is it about? Some may say romance, others suspense, other adult literature (which by the way is another way of camouflaging pornographic material). But what is it about such reading material that has people hooked (on Facebook, I have seen comments of both women and men readers. And why publicly admit that you have read such material when you are aware of the content thereof)? Is it the attraction and addiction of sex, of sexual submission or even the escape from traditional sexual relationships? Is it a trending fad that if not read then you’ve been left in the dark? Is it mere curiosity? Or is it just for the love of reading?

Let me be controversial to make a point. If I enter an adult store and rent a pornographic film, and then after watching it post it on Facebook and publicly state my impatience on getting to the next episode, I wonder how people would respond to that? Yet, we endorse the consuming of reading material that is filled with sexual material. You might say I have pushed the analogy too far, but then I’m sure anyone can cite the same reasons as above.

Now I understand that adult literature is a genre that has been around for a while, but does that make it acceptable? What message are we sending with regard to morality and sexuality? It’s also easy to say that you skip over the sexual materials and is merely following the story, but the story in itself is morally challenging. It’s a really rich guy who will stop at nothing to get what he wants and a girl who is starting out that wants more. When does too much become too much?

I think that the openness of reading these books, on Facebook, Twitter, and in public spaces, speaks much of where we as a society finds ourselves. The blurring of sexuality and sexual roles, the cheapening of sex and sexual encounters and the “for sale” of sex and ourselves have become too popular and freely available. There is no longer any sanctity in our sexuality and partners and the sorrowful part is that we are passing this lifestyle to our children who will inherit fifty shades of so much worse. When do we tell our girls and boys that money cannot buy you everything you want? Where do we draw the line when it comes to sexuality (pick up any popular magazine and I am sure you will find articles on promiscuity). As much as we want to pretty up promiscuity, selling your body eventually leads to selling your soul.

And in case you wondering, NO, I have not read it. I do not have to read every book to know if it’s good or bad.

Busy? Me?

So, I haven’t blogged for a while, I might say that I’m busy, but when it comes down to actually penning it down on paper, then I can’t really call that being busy. But what exactly is being busy? A simple definition would be, “having a great deal to do.” So then it does explain the reality that if I had a great deal to do and there is nothing much to show for it then obviously I haven’t been doing a great deal much! So, then is that busyness or wasting time? But what is wasting time? A nice definition would be “Use or expend carelessly, extravagantly, or to no purpose”. But I know that what I have been doing has not been a carelessness of my time, energy or resources. So then my final question would be, “What have I been doing?”

I think, these questions only matter when there is a backlog of items to address, chores to be done, deadlines to meet and an endless list of “to do’s”. It is only when we reflect on these that these questions become pressing. So ultimately, you should be asking, “of what value do these lists of to do’s have to my personal well-being and if I don’t do them, what would the consequences be?”

So, for me…. let’s just say I will be needing to get busy, but like the cartoon below says, “I don’t have time to be this busy”.

Theological Training? Are You Kidding Me?

Okay, so after the last post, let’s talk a bit about theological training. Now, I know this can be a hot potato with many people because the thinking goes somewhere along these lines,

“God called me to minister not to study”
“Theological study kills the spirit”
“God just looks for volunteers”
“why should we study to minister the Word of God”
“There is no room for professionalism in the church”

and I’m sure this list can go on and on…

So, why theological studies? Are we trying to promote an elitist clergy who alone has access to God and His Word? Does studying about God kill your passion for God? I’m not even sure I would want to defend this, but lets just say that when we want to be a pilot, we study. When we want to be an engineer, we study. When we want to be a school teacher, we study. When we want to be anything in life, we study. Why? Because we believe that in order to excel in any area of vocation we require a certain skill for proper execution and application, yet when it comes to administering the Word of God and ministering to his people, we feel that it doesn’t require us to sharpen our skill for proper execution and application.

Sure, Sure, you don’t need to study to tell people about God, but that is not the point here. Go look around and see how many churches, communities and people’s lives have been destroyed or derailed by people parading around as ministers who are not skilled and qualified for proper ministry. Does that mean that when you have studied you won’t mess up? Of course not, because we still find pilots crashing planes, engineers failing in designs, teachers not cutting the grade (no pun intended), so why do we expect ministers to be any different? Is there a different expectation on ministers? If there is then why lower the standard?